Safety & Community Guidelines

1. Consent is Everything

No means no. Always.

• Consent must be enthusiastic, ongoing, and can be withdrawn at any time
• Never pressure anyone for photos, meetings, or activities
• Respect boundaries without question or negotiation
• "Maybe later" is not consent-only "yes" is yes

2. Respect Privacy

What happens in the community stays in the community.

• Never share screenshots, photos, or information about other members
• Don't reveal anyone's identity outside the platform
• Respect that many members have professional lives to protect
• Never threaten to expose or "out" anyone

3. Be Honest

Authenticity builds trust.

• Use recent, accurate photos of yourself
• Be truthful about your relationship status
• Clearly communicate your interests and boundaries
• Don't misrepresent your intentions

4. Communicate Clearly

Good communication prevents misunderstandings.

• State your expectations upfront
• Ask questions if something is unclear
• Check in with partners before, during, and after experiences
• Use safe words when appropriate

Before Meeting

• ✅ Video chat first to verify identity
• ✅ Meet in a public place first
• ✅ Trust your instincts-if something feels off, don't proceed
• ✅ Discuss boundaries and expectations beforehand

During the Meeting

• ✅ Have your own transportation
• ✅ Keep your phone charged and accessible
• ✅ Don't leave drinks unattended
• ✅ You can leave at any time for any reason

Red Flags to Watch For

• 🚩 Pressuring you to skip safety steps
• 🚩 Refusing to video chat or verify identity
• 🚩 Getting angry when you set boundaries
• 🚩 Inconsistent stories or evasive answers
• 🚩 Pushing alcohol or substances
• 🚩 Trying to isolate you from your partner

What We Expect

| Behavior | Description |

|----------|-------------|

| Respect | Treat every member with dignity |

| Honesty | Be truthful in all interactions |

| Consent | Always ask, never assume |

| Discretion | Protect others' privacy as you'd want yours protected |

| Communication | Be clear about intentions and boundaries |

What We Don't Tolerate

| Violation | Consequence |

|-----------|-------------|

| Harassment or bullying | Immediate ban |

| Non-consensual behavior | Immediate ban + potential legal action |

| Sharing private content | Immediate ban |

| Discrimination of any kind | Immediate ban |

| Fake profiles or catfishing | Account removal |

| Solicitation or commercial activity | Account removal |

| Underage individuals | Immediate ban + reported to authorities |

Physical Health

• Discuss sexual health openly with partners
• Get tested regularly
• Practice safer sex
• Know your status and share it honestly
• Respect others' health boundaries

Emotional Wellbeing

• Check in with yourself and your partners
• It's okay to change your mind
• Take breaks when needed
• Communicate feelings openly
• Seek support if you're struggling

Resources

If you need support:

• National Sexual Assault Hotline (US): 1-800-656-4673
• Local emergency services: 911 / 112 / 100
• Our support team: [email protected]

Communicate First

• Discuss boundaries before engaging with others
• Establish check-in signals
• Create a plan if either person feels uncomfortable
• Debrief after experiences

Protect Your Relationship

• Move at the pace of the slower partner
• Jealousy is normal-address it openly
• Your relationship comes first
• Take breaks if needed

Navigate Respectfully

• Respect that couples have their own dynamic
• Never try to create division between partners
• Be transparent about your intentions
• Understand that couples may need time to discuss decisions

Event Safety

• Follow all venue rules
• Respect "no" from anyone at any time
• Don't take photos without explicit permission
• Report any concerning behavior to staff
• Look out for fellow community members

Alcohol & Substances

• Know your limits
• Never accept drinks from strangers
• Don't engage in activities while impaired
• Consent cannot be given when intoxicated

Onyx Club is committed to:

• ✅ Providing a safe, respectful environment
• ✅ Acting quickly on all reports
• ✅ Protecting your privacy
• ✅ Continuously improving our safety measures
• ✅ Listening to community feedback
• ✅ Being transparent about our policies